Is the romance dead?

So, yes, I have made a big fuss about Valentine's day this year - big deal. Y.O.L.O.

There is nothing wrong with feeling the love and sharing it. Year after year I am irritated by the countless number of "men" who dismiss not just the day itself, which can be deemed irrelevant, but the romantic notions that come with it.

Whatever happened to the boy meets girl, boy watches girl eat at the cafe, boy calls girl and talks for hours until someone falls asleep with the phone cradled to their ear.


So forgive me for living in the past, in some eighties movie, before boy had Blackberry and girl gave boy her pin and they did the BBM thing back and forth all day long.

Fine, fine, I can very well do a blog on the romantic benefits of texting - for there are many. But technology has made us so disconnected from each other. You can now know everything about a person without ever having spoken to them once.
Has this lack of human to human connection made us lackadaisical in our relationships? Are we even putting in the effort to spend time with the people we are "interested" in? Has the easy availability of knowledge killed the drive to communicate and share anything more than bodily fluids?
Is romance dead?

In the days when you wanted to spend more time with someone to get to know more about them, long walks on the beach would ensue. Nights under the stars as Bajan men say "bottling dew" for hours just to be close to the woman you were trying to get to know.

Now to suggest a walk in the park to any man is to walk on eggshells. The man of 2013 would text you, skype you, email you, facebook message you, but candle lit dinner? Err...maybe not.

What's worse is that our women have now reached the point that they have allowed chivalry to die. In an effort to find and keep a man they have settled for the textin and the sexin and ruled the courtship out of the equation.
The few men who have still managed to open a door, offer a jacket, pay for dinner and walk under the moonlight are often re-payed with suspicion. Women meet a "good man" and wonders why he is being so damn nice.

But it is not just our men who have fallen in this arena, Oh, yes, our ladies too have stopped walking down the lacy aisle in the lingerie department and opt for t-shirts and baggy boxers in place of their sexy thongs when it is time for bed. They choose KFC over a good hot stove home cooked meal and to ask them for a massage is a waste of time and energy.
Bet they didn't know how romantic a home cooked meal and a massage could get.

So - is the romance dead? Or is it just laying dormant? Has it lost it's role in keeping the relationship alive? Has it lost it's appeal in these modern times?

For my sake, I hope not. My heart is still very much melted when I am held by a lover watching the sun set.